I overheard 2 ladies on the bus discussing the woman sat in front of them.
“Look at the state or her” “What does she think she looks like” “People like her shouldn’t have children”
You sit in judgement over someone because of how she looks – not her race of religion but her choice in clothes and hair colour.
What is wrong with the way she looks? Is it the coloured hair? Does that make her a bad person?
What about her choice of clothes, all in black, big boots and a hole in her trousers? Hardly makes her a social deviant.
What was that?
“Must be a single parent”
“Bet she lives on beneifts”
How can you possibly say those things? How can you possibly know?
“Poor child having to live with that”
“Never amount to anything with a parent like that – unemployment and prison is all he’ll see”
Why don’t I get up and say something, I should have. She is obviously upset and can hear everything you’re saying.
The baby looks well cared for, happy, healthy and they are obviously close. He makes eye contact with her, concern in his eyes at her sadness, she smiles and his face lights up.
He is loved and loves in return, why is that anything other than perfect?
Unemployment and prison? Unless you have a time machine how you can possibly tell what is to come?
The bus stops. She gets up to leave. Will you give her a final parting comment? one last insult? No because she’s made eye contact with you and you’re suddenly not so brave.
She stands proud, stares you down, turns and walks away. Head held high, proud of her beautiful baby, her glorious red hair and her much loved holey jeans………..
20 years pass by and waits for her boy to come home from university, to wave him goodbye on a summer adventure. Well educated, and trusted to lead a group of teenagers into the Arctic.
I often wonder, old ladies from the bus, what would you say if you could see what that girl and her boy have achieved, where they have been and what a family they have!
And more than anything else, I wish I’d been brave enough to stick my tongue out at them – just for judging me!