I was going to apologise at the beginning of this post – but you know I’m not going to! I have nothing to apologise for in my opinion!
I had the radio on in the background the other day whilst I was going through the fabric cupboard, such a mistake! I knew I shouldn’t have done it – that it was only going to make me cross, but OMG! This programme seriously needs to get it’s self out of the 1950’s !
Their latest theme is chorewars, this ridiculous and divisive conversation about who does the most housework. And it’s just ridiculous, why are people so hung on this crap?
“I do so much more than he does”, ” he’s so lazy when it comes to laundry”, “why does he never empty the dishwasher”
For gods sakes people – get over this whole obsession!
Should we not be focused on the poor turn out of women at elections? The issues of over sexualisation of women at every turn and problems of domestic abuse and poor maternity services?
This constant diatribe about housework, childcare, who does the most etc etc etc bla bla bla is just so dull!
And it’s the dumbing down of women’s issues like this that is causing the problem! These things become an issue because we make them an issue. All the time the conversation goes on about women doing more – they will, because they will feel pressured to uphold this unobtainable perfect life. All the time they dismiss men as being lazy – they will be.
It’s a self perpetuating situation and rather than put an end to it – we seem to revel in it.
Everyone who lives in the house shares the responsibility for maintaining it and the people who they share it with! So talk to them – all of them and do it together – don’t make a huge public deal about it and try to humiliate the one you love!
And so what if the washing up didn’t get done, or the laundry was a day late – life doesn’t come to a crashing standstill for these things! Stop buying into this social pressure of having the perfect house and family, it’s just not important!
And don’t get me started on the “chore” of childcare! Caring for your children is not a chore, it may be hard work, but it’s not a chore – it’s a privilege – throw yourself into it, enjoy it, get down on the floor and build lego, kick through the leaves with them and screw the housework – none of it matters as much as making memories with your babies……. or do you want their mental image of you to be Mrs Mop, in a house coat always worrying about the pile of ironing?
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