Well we survived the first month on our own!
We have remembered to eat proper meals at proper times – which is quite a shock to everyone in the family to be honest!
We have been out in public – on our own…..to a pub no less!
We have stayed up late – even on a school night! And slept in at the weekends!
Now to anyone who has spent time with us over the last 20 years you’ll know that late nights & mornings and a pub is a huge deal!
This whole empty nest stuff isn’t bad at all!
Don’t get me wrong – I still have a knot in my stomach when I think about the fact that my babies are all grown up and gone, that we will never do bedtime stories and making our own playdough ever again.
But I am also rather enjoying this new life too! I was very concerned that we would have nothing to talk about, after all there wasn’t that long between setting up home together and Splosh arriving, so we’ve never really been just a couple.
Would we still have anything in common without the children here? Turns out we do! We have revelled in our shared love of geek/sci fi television. We have sewed, knitted, painted, play computer games to our hearts contend without feeling guilty about ignoring the smalls or feeling the need to be entertaining for the family.
It turns out we are very comfortable in each other company, we don’t feel the need for “date night” (not that we ever have to be honest) we can just be, there doesn’t need to be conversation, there isn’t effort, just a natural rhythm which works for us.
We fit – together – with or without our little ones – just as us – or in a big group.
And you know what – I would happily turn back the clock and have babies all over again – especially knowing how fab life would be when they’re gone!
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