I was horrified earlier in the week when a fellow blogger commented that she had been accused of poisoning her child by letting them have cola to drink. And it has made me think quite seriously about how we judge other peoples parenting.
Now I will be the first one to put my hand up and tut if I think someone is ‘doing it wrong’ but it’s an internal tut and I would never be so rude as to tell them to their face! Unless of course the child is in imminent danger.
I’m fairly sure there are people would be very disapproving of the way I have brought my children up and the things I have let them do! But frankly (warning – Scarlett O’hara moment coming) I don’t give a damn what you think!
I would agree that to allow your child to drink several cans of sugary pop everyday is not going to do them any good, much like feeding them fast food for every meal, brushing their teeth with bleach or playing chicken with a 10 tone truck on the motorway. But really people – get a grip! The occasional fizzy drink or bag of chips is not going to do them any great harm!
We are all too quick to allow the fears of society invade our homes. Sugar will kill you, MacDonalds is poisonous, your high chair has more germs than your toilet seat bla bla bla. I’m fairly sure that the stress of worrying about it all the bloody time is more likely to kill you than the occasional McChicken Sandwich! And you certainly don’t have the right to tell someone else they are doing it wrong!
My children didn’t have cola until they were teenagers – because I couldn’t face he thought of the caffeine rush, but they did occasionally have take away for dinner. They survived! Their normal (ish) people with a brain and a sense of right and wrong and a plan for their lives which doesn’t involve killing anyone else, so I figure it a success.
I never bleached their high chairs or sterilised their toys. I didn’t make them use anti bacterial handwash every time someone sneezed near them. They never caught anything fatal
If you choose to bring your children up in a whole food, vegan, chemical free home with nothing that is not ethically sourced and recycle everything you use at least 3 times over, then bloody good for you! You have my admiration, it’s not easy and I imagine you work hard a it. As someone quite famous said (sort of) I may disagree with your parenting choices, but will fight for your rights to do parent as you please’
It doesn’t give you the right to tell others that they must live the same way! We know what the risks are, and have chosen to take a calculated risk and expose ourselves to it. Someone people are forced by circumstance to make those choices, some people make a free choice – and that’s the key here – choice – it’s ours to make not yours to dictate. We choose because we know what is best for our child and our lifestyle – and it wouldn’t work for you but we don’t judge you for that – kindly do us the same courtesy!